we're all in prisons of our own making, we just need to look beyond the bars once in a while.
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posted at 4:36 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Thursday, October 30, 2003
music right now: 'crank' by the catherine wheel
mmmm i had an interesting sex dream about someone last night. it was kind of out of nowhere, and a little strange.
i'm going to toronto in late november with kyle for the weekend. yay! we'll get to see brad again, i miss living with him.
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posted at 2:43 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Wednesday, October 29, 2003
i am not going to russian this morning. i need a break from that class. i ended up putting myself to bed at 9.15pm last night, and waking up at 9.00am this morning. i had some very strange dreams. but yes, i have some stuff to get done this morning (mainly the dishes i've been avoiding like the plague).
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posted at 9:15 a.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Tuesday, October 28, 2003
is it just me, or is 'dagger' by slowdive one of the most amazing songs ever recorded? no, it's not just me.
i just wrote one of the better things i have written in a long time. i didn't have to force it, i just wrote. i feel so calm at the moment, and i should be sleeping, but i don't care. i wrote and i finally saw myself in the words, i saw myself.
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posted at 4:03 a.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Sunday, October 26, 2003
Swinging and smooth. You know what's in style and you're tastes are just perfect. You know what is worth spending and you like to live the high life. You're classy and smooth talking. You're the Stylish Jazz type of Gay Guy.
they played 'nothing compares 2 u' last night at unity for the slow song. i love that song more than i can ever explain. oh sinead o'connor, why are you retiring?
i saw jamey, the boy that i liked but ended up with kyle for a brief time (well, that's typically how it is with kyle). he invited me to his hallowe'en party this friday. i want to go.
i had a few boys hitting on me last night. i didn't do anything about it - i didn't want any of them.
i can't wait to get my new piercing. it is going to look super hot.
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posted at 1:55 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Saturday, October 25, 2003
music right now: 'answer' by sarah mclachlan
i listened to the clips of sarah mclachlan's new album on her website and at first i was not impressed, merely somewhat happy with what i heard. but now i have been listening to this song 'answer' a few times and it is stunning. i hope that the rest of the album holds up that well with repeated listenings.
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posted at 6:24 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
music right now: 'the gentle art of choking' by my vitriol
last night was really fun. i went to tandoori village with vicky and ariel after work. i got aloo gohbi which was really good, but it was so funny because the actual meal that they brought me was what i thought was the appetiser. it was good, but i wanted more. i should have gotten nan instead of rice :-(
then we went and saw 'party monster' at cinema du parc. despite what the critics said about the film, i really enjoyed it. i cannot say this enough, macaulay culkin is HOT! it's so funny, when i was younger my friend and i both had what i guess you could call a crush on him. we were obsessed with him (jared more-so). it's hilarious to think about it now.
anyway, the film was well done, there were some amazing shots. and any movie with chlöe sevigny is good in my books.
it was just fun to go out with vicky and ariel. i haven't had a lot of time to hang out with them lately and i miss them both, so it was great. it felt like first year again :-D
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posted at 5:43 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Thursday, October 23, 2003
i have been listening to the debut album by the stills, 'logic will break your heart', and it is the best album i have heard in the longest time. aside from 'still in love song', the one track i am obsessed with is 'gender bombs', which also happens to be the song to contain the album title within it. i love this album.
i have to work on my oral. i have done very little for it.
jeff's friend came over to see the flat today. there was so much sexual tension you could cut it with a chainsaw. i want this boy, but it doesn't look like it's going to happen. i hate boys that flirt incessantly but don't follow up on it.
rest in peace elliott smith, you died way too young but your genius will live on.
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posted at 7:47 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
music right now: 'in my secret life' by leonard cohen
i am obsessed with one l. cohen at the moment. i feel old, but i don't care.
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posted at 2:02 a.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Tuesday, October 21, 2003
music right now: 'september' by throwback
i've been reading for the past few hours. reading is truly one of the few things in life that i don't appreciate as much as i should, it's so calming and it's one of the few things i have always loved to do.
i'm listening to throwback who are a mcgill band. they had posters up around campus and i went to their website. they are actually really really good, i am impressed.
i've been listening to this icelandic musician, sigridur nielsdottir. she is so strange, i am compelled to listen to her over and over again, it's odd. i never thought i would like a 70 year old icelandic woman's music. i guess i was proven wrong.
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posted at 2:52 a.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
'i don't know which was is up anymore'
it's so strange, my life is so good at the moment, but i can't step back and take it for all it's importance in the overarching structure of what my life has been in the long-run. i am doing really well in school. i, at this point in the term, have about an A- average, which is great compared to what i had last year (a B average). english is my thing, this is what i want to do with my life. all those little thoughts at the back of my mind about wanting to be a doctor or a fashion designer or anything else are slowly becoming just thoughts and nothing more. but the thing is i don't have many things to be excited about. i hate how life seems to be one endless waiting game, how you push your true happiness into the future when you will get married or buy a new car or go on another date with that special person. true happiness shouldn't depend on concrete things like that. but i don't subscribe to the whole notion of true happiness coming from some sort of religion. as much as i try, as much as i look at them for what they have to offer, i simply cannot bring myself to believe. i find myself edging closer to chaos every day, but still i find some comfort in the complete randomness of everything. if only i could find true happiness more often, i'm tired of waiting for some future event.
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posted at 1:11 a.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Sunday, October 19, 2003
music right now: 'untitled #1 (vaka)' by sigur rós
'don't ever change for anyone'
i have heard that phrase so many times. i don't know why, people seem to have a tendency to tell me that when they are either rejecting me or attempting to give me unasked for advice on love. well, i'm tired of it. most of my male gay friends don't seem to realise how hard my life has been in terms of who i am and how i present myself. what you see is what you get, i don't hide my personality away in order to get with someone, i don't lie in order to find someone to date. i am too gay for gay guys it seems. i'm not straight acting and i don't pretend to be. i'm not a flaming queen, i'm not super effeminate, i'm not anything, i'm just me. and i guess when you get past my looks that is not attractive. i've come to find that out a lot lately, and it is just getting to a breaking point. like i said in my last post, i am always someone's friend, never anything more. i am tired of being viewed that way. i am deathly afraid of dying alone, you have no idea. i see my mum and know that once my sister has graduated high school that she will be on her own and she is strong enough to take that. i'm not. i just wish that for once someone would see me as a friend but also as something more.
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posted at 3:08 a.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Saturday, October 18, 2003
i think i should just stop even looking at guys. it always blows up in my face. i have a hard time attracting anyone, as soon as they know me they never look as me as more than anything than a friend and that is getting more and more depressing as the days go on. i guess i'm always gonna be someones friend, never anything more.
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posted at 7:09 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
new poem. i like it. i don't care if anyone else does or not.
dark sancuary in those tea-stained eyes
i come as i please and wish you to
follow me, peering over my shoulder
retreat to the snowy deserts of my heart
and feel the cold grip you like a knife to
the back - seduce me, play with me, elude me
cut out my tongue in a general motion
and let me fall into your mystery, lay in
bed with you in subliminal silence, perpetual
torture
roll over and embrace me, eliminate
the dark space between us, get up and
throw off the shackles he put on you
and let me take you somewhere new.
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posted at 2:34 a.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Friday, October 17, 2003
it's a friday night, i have no plans, i am listening to a little old icelandic woman sing and make strange noises with god-knows-what. well, what has my life come to. this:
i found this somewhere through my travels through cyberspace. it's going to become a common sight, so keep your comments to yourself :-)
1. name five things in your refridgerator:
- pepsi
- onions
- random tupperware containers
- ketchup
- bread
2. name five things in your freezer:
- ice
- more ice
- microwave waffles
- tomato sauce in a jjar
- not sure what else
3. name five things under your kitchen sink
- plastic bags
- a pot
- bleach
- gloves (rubber)
- old roach traps we don't need
4. name five things around your computer
- the new zealand flag hanging on my wall to my left
- a pen
- my keys
- a necklace
- my mobile phone
5. name five things in your medicine cabinet
- nail varnish
- astringent
- cotton swabs
- visine
- roll-on glitter
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posted at 9:28 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
i'm seeing placebo again in december!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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posted at 8:28 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
music right now: 'alexandra leaving' by leonard cohen
i know what i want. the problem is i can't find it anywhere. i want someone on the same wavelength as me, who sees what i see in life, who doesn't think diametrically opposite from how i think. i can't find that anywhere.
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posted at 4:27 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Thursday, October 16, 2003
here's a plan:
the leftist parties in canada should join forces. the NDP and bloc quebecois should merge and form a new party, the social democratic party. then they should lure sheila copps to their side, have her become leader, and then win the election. go sheila! it probably won't happen, but serious, there is no leftist challenge in canada anymore and it's pissing me off. we're a socialist democracy, we need a government that is going to reflect that.
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posted at 3:22 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
i've decided i want to go to new york city or toronto for spring break. i've never really been to either, so i may have the chance and i am going to go for it. vicky, if you read this, do you want to come along?
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posted at 2:43 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
i hate being ignored on msn. i begin to worry about whether i did something wrong and it snowballs to where i am right now, restless and slightly depressed. i guess i am just so tired of things that i want some excitement in my life for once. this rut i am in is beginning to wear me down and suck all the energy from my body.
i've written something for the first time in months. i need to write more. i miss it.
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posted at 1:28 a.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Wednesday, October 15, 2003
degrassi is making me cry... ugh, i remember coming out at that age. it seems like years ago that i went through all that. i could have done so many things differently.
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posted at 8:51 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
music right now: 'gabriel' by lamb
i love lamb (the band, not the food).
sunday evening vicky and i had thanksgiving dinner together. it was insane! we made fondue which was really good, and for dessert we ended up eating pot brownies. we watched family guy and i swear i kept making myself trip out by thinking that i was going to die for some reason (i was paranoid about mixing pot and e). before i had gone over vicky told me to bring belgian beer to use for the fondue. little did i know that she was lying for no reason at all, that you use wine normally. she told me this when we were insanely high and i laughed soooooo hard. then we kept on doing this stupid line from family guy over and over again ('welcome to battlestar galactica forum'). she kept on saying the line wrong and that just made us laugh even more. there was some strange phone call to rajeev in there, but i don't remember how it went, i just know it was really funny. yay for getting stoned with vicky on thanksgiving!!!!!! :-D
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posted at 1:14 a.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Tuesday, October 14, 2003
a week or two ago my mate daniel ended up giving my msn to his friend ossie who happens to live in montreal now (he's originally from labrador - for all you people who have no idea where that is, it's the mainland part of newfoundland). anyway, we've been chatting, and he is actually really cute and funny. he invited me to this kitchen party (it's an east coast thing) that he and his flatmates are throwing on saturday. plus i ended up making a stupid pun on his name after he challenged me to, so he is taking me for pizza on thursday :-D yay!
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posted at 3:24 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
black and blue last night was interesting.
i was the third wheel most of the night because kyle had my keys in his bag which he checked.
the music was pretty good.
the e was better.
i got to hang with jon who i really like.
i was bored by the end.
the metro ride home was hell. i hate that, it's always the worst part, having all the people stare at you as you are cracked out.
crawling into bed was heaven, i always love that feeling
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posted at 12:25 a.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Sunday, October 12, 2003
i've decided to explore religion a little more. i've already seen enough of christianity to know that i dislike it intensely, and islam scares me, so i am not looking at it, but there are other religions that i am interested in and want to find more about. so, the first one is judaism. i'm going to temple with jeff in the next few weeks just to see what it is like. after that i want to go to a buddist temple, visit a shinto shrine, and read more about confusianism and wicca. i don't know what i'll find, or if i'll find answers to questions i have, but in the end i will be less ignorant on these religions and hopefully have some fun along the way. i'm weird i know, but i don't care.
and to all you canadians celebrating thanksgiving: get yer turkey down on ya! (happy thanksgiving new zealand style)
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posted at 4:36 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Saturday, October 11, 2003
i finished 'the passion' by jeanette winterson last night - absolutely bril is all i have to say about it. everyone must read it, NOW! :-D it has changed how i view love and passion. it's rare that a book shapes how i feel and how i think, but this one made me view things from a different perspective and it makes me want to read it again. unfortunately i have to read other books at the moment.
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posted at 2:20 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Friday, October 10, 2003
i don't know who i trust anymore, so i guess the only thing to do is trust no one. basically first it was kyle moving out. now i find out that brad isn't coming back to montreal. so that basically screws me over. i think kyle knew all along, and that pisses me right off. i fucking hate this, i can't do anything without someone screwing me over. and i just feel like shit. two of brad/kyle's friends are coming to montreal for black and blue (which i don't even want to go to anymore), and i don't know how i feel about them. it feels like i am always a big joke whenever other people's friends come to montreal. fuck it, i'm sick of people, i'm sick of this city, i'm sick of the way my life always turns out. it's bullshit and i am getting away from it as soon as possible.
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posted at 3:18 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Thursday, October 09, 2003
i'm thinking of dropping out and getting the hell out of montreal. i'm sick of trusting people and having that trust broken. i guess it's time to just get away from here.
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posted at 10:23 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
music right now: 'state of mind' by holly valance
i LOVE both kylie and holly's new singles. they're both absolutely amazing. this fall has been amazing for great music. i am in love with siobhan donaghy's album 'revolution in me'. it's ace. she used to be in sugababes for their first album, but quit and went solo and now you can see why. she has great songwriting talent and it's nice to hear that she didn't go on her own for no reason. travis' new album, if 're-offender' is any clue, will be incredible, it's great to hear new stuff from them, it's been a while. sarah mclachlan's new single is fantastic, as i mentioned before. rufus wainwright's new album is great, i love a few of the songs. he's toned down the whole cabaret schtick, which is nice. dido's new album is pretty good, not great but not a disaster. and who else...? i can't think of any other new albums/singles i am fawning over... i can't wait for kylie's new album.. that girl will always be my diva, through thick and thin.
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posted at 2:18 a.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Wednesday, October 08, 2003
'come back to me a while, change your style again, come back to me a while, change your taste in men...'
i have been thinking and lately i've decided the type of boy i want to be with. lets call him normal boy. i have seen this type of boy around campus and around the city for that matter, and that's what i want. it's hard to define him, other than his ideal type of evening in with me would be to sit and watch movies and eat pizza/thai/anything that tastes good and doesn't involve rotting animal flesh. he would be around my height, skinny or a little more built, nice eyes, and can cook. i want a normal boy, not a gorgeous, 'the whole world looks at me' type boy that i tend to want. i want the boy next door. and i want him here, in my bed lol. no, i actually saw the perfect normal boy last friday at the queer mcgill party. he had the worst colour co-ordination ever (who the fuck wears a red checked button shirt with a green t-shirt underneath?), but the downside is he was laughing at my pool playing ability. well, maybe he isn't perfect. but i still want him. :-)
my style has changed sooo much over the past few years, and now i find myself in a place where i have no clear style. it's gravitates between le chateau gay boi and more punk-gothy style. but in high school i was into the whole coffee-house-vegan-spoke-word-poetry-and-underground type thing. the whole modern hippie thing, minus the not showering and nasty dreads thing. i always thought i would be like that in uni. it's funny because i am not. i don't know where i fit in, and perhaps that is the best thing for me. i can fit in wherever i want, whenever i want and never get any negative feedback for it. i am versatile that way.
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posted at 2:12 a.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Tuesday, October 07, 2003
music right now: 'stumble away' by david bridie
'i don't feel so good today...'
i am sick, i hate that feeling. my neck, head, eyes and lungs all hurt. i ache all over.
i love the cold, i love having my window open and while i sit and type the cold air rubbing against the small patch of exposed skin at the base of my back. i love the sound the wind makes while it howls outside my window, the desolation and isolation is reminds me of. winter is coming. i love winter more than any season. the anticipation of the snow, the darkness in the mornings and the late afternoons. i love the chill in the air, seeing my breath float away, the tingle of the cold on the tip of my nose.'
the rush of anticipation fills my mind, the realisation that this year is crawling to its demise, that a new one is fast approaching. the feelings inside me are slowly leaking out of my eyes, out of my fingertips, and the words come easier than they have in the longest time. i can write again. i feel amazing about that. i just have no time to indulge myself in such soul purging activities. the artist in me is dying to get out, it's scratching at my insides, screaming at me to let it out. i need time.
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posted at 9:58 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Monday, October 06, 2003
music right now: 'those anythings' by siobhan donaghy
i have been going for like fifteen hours straight, and on only three and a half hours of sleep. i am insane. and as i was sitting in my medieval and rennaisance voyage fiction class i realised this is what i want to do with the rest of my life. i love english, i love being able to say that i have found something i truly enjoy. i would love to become a professor and have my summers off. i know what i want to do my masters thesis in (comparisons in post-colonial representations in australian/new zealand/canadian lit, specifically of the poetry of gwendolyn macewen and allan curnow, the prose of carol shields, tim winton and peter carey), this is what i want, i just have to figure out how i am going to afford to spend $14 000 on tuition if i go to uni at the u of auckland (i could go to massey in auckland or victoria university in wellington and pay less).
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posted at 11:45 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
i am exhausted, two papers are done. i never want to look at those fucking book reviews ever again.
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posted at 2:22 a.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Thursday, October 02, 2003
i am way too overdramatic sometimes. anyway, i realised that stopping writing on here was too hard. i love writing, this is my major outlet. and when that was gone for less than a day i was kind of having trouble finding ways to get all that out. so, i got trashed last night. hahah, that's not good. and then i posted those two last posts and now i feel like a fool. but whatever, you live you learn.
and did i mention i love sarah mclachlan's new single? i've listened to it probably ten times today already. i didn't think anything could dislodge the lost in translation soundtrack and dido's new album from my playlist this soon. but ya, that's what happens when sarah puts out new stuff. i've been waiting six years for this and i am not disappointed.
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posted at 1:57 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
taking a leave of absense never works. neither does being drunk at unity on wednesday apparently. fuck the pain away i say.
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posted at 2:50 a.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
Wednesday, October 01, 2003
the tales of my death are far too premature.
i took today off to think about this blog. fuck it, i cannot go without writing how i feel. i do not give a shit if you read this and take anything i say seriously.
i am listening to the new sarah mclachlan single. it's AMAZING. I LOVE IT. this is the second listen. SARAH MCLACHLAN. i have waited for this day for years. SARAH MCLACHLAN. FUCK. I LOVE IT MORE THAN I CAN EVER EXPRESS WITH WORDS.
i'm back. i don't give a shit. i miss paradise hotel already. yes, this is me, judge me if you life, but it's not my problem.
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posted at 10:53 p.m. by gleefully gloomy. ...
consider this my resignation. after a year and a half and a whole lot of changes, i think i am done with this blog. i don't know, that may change, but i've been thinking about this and i think it's time.
why?
a few reasons:
a) i don't know if i can keep pouring out everything i feel into a journal that is so public.
b) someone happened to read this at one point and that had an adverse effect on my life. if you are reading this and you know what i am talking about, fuck you. it's one thing to take what someone writes about their personal life, their thoughts in their head, how they feel and read it. it's another to take that and stab that person in the back when you don't even know them (read: me). so ya, you can fuck yourself.
c) i am sick of this whole blog thing.
so ya, maybe i'll start a new one that no one knows about. or maybe not. either way, it's over.
the show is over
the curtain has been pulled
the last lights are fading
good night ladies and gentlemen
farewell, auf wiedersehen, goodbye
Reading: The Shock Doctrine: The Rise of Disaster Capitalism
Naomi Klein God Is Not Great: How Religion Poisons Everything
Christopher Hitchens Copenhagen
Time Out City Guides
Seeing: Juno
Jason Reitman Annie Hall
Woody Allen There Will Be Blood
Paul Thomas Anderson
Listening to: Boxer
The National The Fountain: OST
Clint Mansell In Rainbows
Radiohead